I think this is a very sensitive issue among men and this can lower our man's ego. So for those of you who's got this or knows anybody who has this, read up!

Erectile dysfunction is defined as the inability to achieve or maintain an erection adequate for sexual function.

There are a lot of causes that may cause this -medication, depression, stress, hormonal abnormalities or it may be a sign for bigger health problems such as cardiovascular disease, diabetes, high cholesterol and hypertension, as well as the early stages of heart disease.

Ira Sharlip, MD, a urologist in the San Francisco recommends getting your guy evaluated for cardiovascular risk if there is a persistent erectile issue that lasts for three months or longer.

Well when you've done the first thing to do, which is get your guy to the doctor to get evaluated, stick to being there for him and tell him that you love him and something like, "I know we have a great sex life and everyone has concerns", Marianne Brandon, PhD, clinical psychologist, sex therapist strongly suggests.

Karin, 42, a teacher in Westchester County, N.Y., did her research on this subject online and brushed up on the medical condition before broaching the topic to her husband. She was more on curing his cardiovascular disease and he took it well!

So instead of getting viagra and pills, which gave her husband bad headaches after that, she developed an intense workout plan to help him shed 20 pounds, adopt a Mediterranean diet, and improve his circulation. It's something like living healthy lifestyle. They worked out five days a week for 12 weeks and saw a noticeable improvement in their sex life. Tadaaaaa!

Next is be creative in your sex life. Don't pressurize him in doing his best on giving you pleaseure, try to be less goal-oriented about sex and let go of the traditional notion that intercourse is what making love is all about and it’s got to end in orgasm. Focus more on exploring other methods of foreplay, ways of touching (nibbling, licking, sucking, feather) on different areas of the body and such, just have fun!

Whatever you do in improving his performance, get him to see doctor regularly and be there and don't judge him - you're both in this as this affects you both and your marriage, just think of on fixing the problem and be there for him, support him and think of any other way which can cause this problem to your spouse. Good luck! =).






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